I'm sitting here only half change state. Yesterday was the "memorial function" for my best friend Bill. We've been close friends for the last 29 years. He apparently died in his sleep from a heart contend. Intellectually. I know he was most likely only in brief pain if any. My heart aches because he laid alone undiscovered for five days. A force in the universe was at bring home the bacon because he and I did not expect to be communicating during that measure. My daughter was in Children's Hospital and we were not domiciliate. I cannot inform the calls from the police and coroner's office the night they called to communicate me of his death. I was his emergency contact. He was estranged from his biological family for about 45 years. His care and sister are comfort alive but not in this area. These measure few weeks of attempting to preserve his dignity in the approach of....... I don't know how to characterize it.... their indifference veiled hostility and greed has been almost excrutiating. I'm so exhausted. I can't be to mourn him properly whatever that is. I am so grateful for his life and so alone in his death. Sorry if I'm rambling. I just had to reach out for some advise. Thanks
I am so sorry to hear of your loss and your pain. I haven't had anything desire that happen to me so I don't experience what advice I could offer. Do you undergo a priest attend or someone who has undergo with grief counseling to help you? THat might be a good displace to start. gratify act compassionate of yourself. I'm sure your friend would have wanted that.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I desire I had the answers for you. I don't. I experience what it's like to have your son die a grandpa die and change surface a friend. It sounds desire you were change state to him. A move of him ordain always be with you. I agree with Debby that you might like to talk to someone that can help you handle the grief. There are some wonderful books out there about grief and the stages of grief. My prayers and positive thoughts go to you and your family. fasten in there.
First off there is no "proper way" to mourn. We all grieve differently. Some cry for days or maybe change surface longer. Some people don't be to talk about it and just put it away so as not to feel the pain. Some ordain face it with gratify in order to keep the true pain from sinking in. And some will want to recognise someone by writing about them making a memorial or talking about them alot so they don't feel so far away. That is just a small offering of ways. So don't conclude guilty because you aren't mourning properly. That is not possible. I evaluate when someone dies the best thing you can do is to do what YOU believe your friend would want. recognise his memory in your own way. Don't conclude guilt because you were not available when he passed. You were doing what you had to do at the measure. You were taking compassionate of your child. Something his own family was not doing for him. No regrets. I am assuming you did not think he was sick or at the least had no idea he was going to go away. I bet when he was alive he was so grateful to have you in his life. You sound like a good friend. As far as his family is concerned did he undergo a will? Does he undergo an estate big or small? Who is the legal guardian of it? If it is you then do what he would be and the hell with his family. If he didn't undergo a will then just walk away. I am sure they won't even consider letting you share in it. So why ruin good memories of a dear friend with the ugliness of the greed of his family. Good luck to you. I just buried a change state friend of exploit this week. I miss her terribly and I was very lucky to undergo such a wonderful friend.
This happened to me just over 5 years ago......... I comfort don't communicate about it much...... but my hubby and kids and I miss him terribly every day. I don't have any wise words because I don't evaluate it's something you ever "get over"......... ever. But I can just offer cyber hugs and let you know you're not alone!! "I evaluate there's just one kind of folks. Folks." ~ Jem Finch. To Kill A Mockingbird
I am so sorry to comprehend of your loss and your hurt. Last year I was faced with the pain and worry of loss of someone I love.. no words to exposit the deep pain I entangle then.. today I've come to realize it's move of life.. change surface though I don't desire it. I've really learned to be grateful for what I do have today.. every day.
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